A NEPHEW AUNTY PAULINA EXPERIENCES:

 It’s only natural that we all want to say something that represents all “incredibly emotional,” and special kind words about the dead as we all reflect on the death of an Aunty called Paulina.

The children would hear blended calls and texts about the role of her motherhood, ‘caretakerhood,’ unbridled friendliness, and many other wonderful things about our dear aunt, including the bond shared among family members- a bond unlike no other, eulogized.

Please, remember that CANDOUR was her GOSPEL, etched in her DNA and passed on to her children who by the way, as we all mourn, still have the responsibility of taking care of their ailing father.

So, for all those extremely emotional, limit your tears to your quiet places, and display the anguish, grief, regret, sorrow, wails, woes, or “negative energy,” in private. Spare to share them with the children.

They need truth, sincerity, no bulls, devoutness, faithfulness, guilelessness, and honest-to-God supportive “positive energy.”

Do not be deceived! The children have her DNA!

1. If you never took the trouble to commensurate and wish Aunty Paulina well, while she was going through her cancer ordeal, if you now are calling to spend distracting hours to commensurate with the children, Aunty Paula may come back to HAUNT you!

2. If you never gave money towards her treatments and now want to showcase your generosity and richness by offering to buy her a golden casket, I’m sorry for the state of your dreams and peace of mind!!

3. If you chose to say anything “not very truthful,” about what you feel about her-her brash responses, snappy reactions, damning cut-offs, insults, yabbies, when you are caught in untruthfulness whether in a display of emotion, or discussions, her meanness, etc, etc all that Aunty Paula displays as natural, unpretentious; unassuming, plain, simple, economical personality, and all she does without discrimination or favour, you would be found out and trust me even in death, Aunty will frown at you and be looking at you one kind, one kind.

4. One thing for sure to remember as we mourn her: memories can be diverse and spread across various periods of her life. We all have stories that showcase and can help explain who she was, and what she did with her life. etc. Don’t be afraid to blend all the series of funny, touching, or even sad memories that shaped her into the type of person that she was and the influence she had on us all with the children but please do so without,

5. Pretentiousness, assuming, be plain, simple, economical (don’t go wasting the children’s time telling stories), and do all without discrimination or favour as Aunty Paula would.

Thank you.

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