TOPIC TODAY: Is the "First-Born daughters Clash" a Choice or a Curse? Mothers and daughters often share a unique intensity because they see themselves in each other. Does "Obedience without question" create a safe home or a silent stranger? Can a parent move from Authoritarian (Control) to Authoritative (Guidance) when the child is already a teenager?The Big Question: If we want our daughters to be strong, leaders, and "thinkers" in the world, why do we try so hard to make them "silent" and "deferential" at home?
The atmosphere at Evking’s Bar is a bit more intimate tonight. Nne is sitting with a glass of juice, her brow furrowed as she recounts a phone call with her cousin. "My cousin is exhausted," Nne says to the group. "She and her mother are like fire and petrol. Every conversation ends in an explosion. Now she’s looking at her own young daughter and panicking - wondering if this 'first daughter - mother Friction' is a generational curse or just a bad script they keep rehearsing." NNE: My cousin asked me if all first-born ladies are destined to be on the opposite side of their mothers. I told her I have a great relationship with mine, but then I realized... is it because we are "close," or because I was raised never to say "No"? I followed every directive without question. But my cousin's daughter is different - she’s influenced by social media, her peers, and her own mind. She’s "expressive." ELDER EPHRAIM: That "expre...