TOPIC TODAY: Why do people in "good" relationships still chase small, cheap thrills? Is it because they don't value themselves, or because some people are just naturally disloyal? What should partners in such relationship do?

SCENE: A Bar in Ikeja. Nne is showing a post to the group. She looks confused.

​NNE (Sighing):
​I’m reading this story about a guy named Ik. Narrating his sad story. His girlfriend, Bola, always told him he was her "everything." But while he was always busy planning her future, she continued to see and sleep with old male friends and customers in secret.

​OLA (Leaning in):
​Let me guess. She stays over at hotels for "boarding" and few Naira notes? I’ve seen that story. My problem isn't just that she lies. It’s that she sold her loyalty for the price of a few meat pies! That’s cheap, an insult to the word "love."
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JIDE (Satirically):
​Ah, Ola, maybe it’s "inflation love." But really, Ik says the worst part wasn't the money. It was the message she sent after. When she asks the men: "I hope you enjoyed it?" She acts like she was providing a service instead of being a woman in a committed relationship.

​NNE: ​That’s what’s so "cringe." She doesn't even need the money! She works hard and can take care of herself. She can have a good life. Why would someone who is being loved like a queen go out and act like... well, act like she has a cheap price tag?

​JENNIFER (Tapping her notebook):
​It’s a classic case of low self-value. Even when someone gives you gold, if you believe you are only worth lead, you will keep going back to where no one challenges you and where you meet people who treat you cheaply. It is obvious that she has not healed from her "rough past." She is still looking for "tips" instead of "true relationship."

​EOO (Looking at a candle on the table):
​Love is a tall building, but trust is the foundation. Ik looked at her text and saw that the foundation was made of sand. He still loves her, but how do you relate and respect someone who doesn't respect or value herself? You can't un-see a text message like 'do you enjoy me' or sending an emoji of a girl rubbing her private part to a stranger. It stays in the mind like a stain.

​OLA:
​Respect? That one is gone. If she can do that for cheap thrills, she will do it for a cold bottle of beer and pepper soup next. The guy needs to pack his bags and run. You don't build a house with broken bricks.

​JIDE: ​But he says he still loves her. That’s the tragedy. He’s in love with the girl he thought she was, not the one who sent that cheapening message.

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